2013 in less then 2 minutes

Woops left it awhile again.
In all honesty not a lot has happened since my last post, but does it ever?

My little boy is ill, bless. he's all snotty nosed, a bit of a chesty cough, kinda sounds like mucus on his chest, and to top that off he's teething. Can't be nice for me. Yet despite all that half the time he's still trying to be his happy self. 
I hate seeing him like this. I feel so useless, doesn't help I have a cold as well though. No where near as bad as my little one.

Tomorrow is new year's eve. The last day of 2013. What a year it's been.

Started of the year working, wishing time would hurry up. It was about then people started to notice that yes I was actually pregnant.

February started of well, then became a mad rush, having to rush out and buy tiny baby stuff, thankful hubby's parents helped us with that. I got induced almost 4 weeks early, and with about 28 minutes to spare had a February baby.

March me and my little one came out of hospital, spent a few days at the in laws so we got some help while I recovered from my section. It was my dads birthday a few days after we came out of hospital. The big  5 0. 

April, and May were a bit of a blur, I know I had to get little one weighed weekly and may was euro vision song contest, so we were over the in laws for that. We do our own little contest when that's on. Once all the countries taking part have sung we pick 2 we think might win and put £1 in the middle of the table. who every wins gets the money. If a country that wins wasn't one of the chosen, one that was that came highest wins. This year I won. I broke my sister in laws streak of winning 3 years in a row.  End of May was also the month we started trying for another baby.

June I found out I was pregnant again, so it was off to the doctors to get the pregnancy confirmed. At this point my little one was getting weight every 2 weeks I think.

July was the month I turned 25, half my dad's age. I had my first midwife appointment for this baby, and had to have blood tests on my birthday, which ended up getting repeated the week after as one of the samples clotted.

August I spent most of the time throwing up as I did in July, luckily had anti-sickness tablets which helped to ease the sickness. I think August was also the month I had my 12 weeks scan and my first ever pregnancy scare. I had a bit of a bleed and lost my plug.

September was a pretty bland month. I don't remember much happening that month.

October I had the gender scan, where we found out we are expecting another boy. We also celebrated our 3rd year wedding anniversary.

November was hubby's birthday. We started buying Christmas presents. not much else happened.

December, well we've spent most of the month scraping by, pretty much every Thursday I have had appointments of some sort. It was our little boy's first Christmas. We've had 2 power cuts in less then a week, we no longer have a garden fence as the wind took most of that, so hubby took what was left down.

That's my year in less then a minute or 2.

2014 is going to be a busy year for my little family. Another baby due end of February. Depending how my growth scan goes on Thursday depends if he'll be early as well. We're moving in the summer. My son's first birthday end of February and another first Christmas.

This year has gone so quickly. At the time you think it goes quite slow, but when you look back at it, it's like where has the time gone.

Busy few days

Firstly hope you all day a good Christmas.
Sorry I left it a few days before posting again, at least I warned you I would this time though.

Well Christmas eve I had my VBAC appointment. It went ok. The VBAC consultant said that the hospital I'm having baby at has a 80% chance of successful VBAC, but later changed that to 75%, she gave me information on the risks of both VBAC and C-section. When I said I would prefer another C-section because the whole idea of labour scares me as it would be all new to me, she wrote in my notes would prefer ELSC due to traumatic experience last time. Not that the labour was though, I never said it was, just said the idea of it scares me. I think it didn't help my contractions were so close together last time.
I asked if I was to have another section when would I likely get it, and she pretty much said providing everything is normal and ok with this baby then it will be as close to my due date as possible. She asked what I would do if I was to go into labour before hand. To which I said the well I might as well try VBAC if I was already in labour. I know that I will be closely monitored so if something was to happen they'd be quick to respond.

We did our first secret santa that day as well. My brother in law (sister in law's hubby) took his one surprisingly well. I think he saw the joke side of it. My sister in law was my secret santa and because I am a short 5ft she got me a foot stall so I can reach the top shelf. Funny really because she's short too, only a few cm taller then me, defiantly come in handy though.

Christmas Day was a LONG one. Got up a 6am so we could all get dressed and have our little Christmas before going down to the in laws for 8am. Got there did Christmas with them, then at about 11am went to my parents to do a quick Christmas with them, was there about an hour and a half. Went back to the in laws for Christmas dinner and for hubby's gran ma. Then I think we got home about 8pm. Maybe a little later.
My RLS (Restless Leg syndrome) was playing up quite badly. It got to the point where I got so frustrated with it I just wanted to cry, I felt so emotional because of it.

Today wasn't as busy as the last few days, little one let us sleep in till about 10am. Went to the in laws again and hubby's granddad and cousin was going to be there. I think it was a little after 1pm we got there. About 3 we went to my parents again as I forgot to drop of my brother's birthday card of yesterday. So was there for a little while. Went back to the in laws for a few hours and boxing day dinner there, yummy chicken chips and chicken gravy.
Now we are at home chilling with the little one tucked up in bed, hubby on the xbox 360 playing the newest Assins Creed game, while I write this post. It's just gone 10pm and I'm so so tired but I know if I went to bed I wouldn't be able to sleep.

Tomorrow we are planning a stay in day as the weather is meant to be pants again, plus we can't actually afford to do anything anyways, So I might not be posting tomorrow.

VBAC appointment tomorrow.

Sorry I've left a few more days then I would usually. It's not that I've been busy, it's just that not much has happened.

Friday I finally got my letter for a VBAC appointment. I laughed when I saw when it was. Talk about short notice, and for it to be on Christmas Day of all days.

The weekend was it's usual thing, apart from we didn't go shopping. I wasn't going to go any where near the towns on the last weekend before Christmas.

Today well that's been fun, even with not leaving the house.
We have a weather warning for wind and rain all day today up until about 9 tomorrow morning.
At lunch a big chunk of our fence took a flying lesson into next doors garden.

Then a few hours later our fence fell down only to be partly held up by our sky dish cables.

 

So after that happened my hubby grab his hammer took the cables of off the fence and laid the fallen parts of the fence down. Luckily there is a wire fence behind that. Next door's wooden fence is coming away from the wall, so slightly worried that it's going to end up in their car.

The wind is set to get worse tonight. I am hoping no more of our fence will take a flying lesson.

 

 

Anyway. As tomorrow is Christmas eve. Just in case I don't manage to post anything I'd like to wish you all a very MERRY CHRISTMAS.

I have my VBAC appointment tomorrow lunch time. I know I've posted a fair bit about VBAC and elective C-section, but I'm going to do some more research tonight so I can refresh my memory. I am pretty sure I know what I want, and that is another section.

The idea of a VBAC so close to when I had my last one scares me. I know that chance of rupture is less then 1% and my success rate of having a successful VBAC is 74%, but like I said before I'm not sure that is enough for me. I would have like a higher success rate if I was going to attempt one.

 

So if I do post tomorrow I will let you know how it went and I will also wish you all a merry Christmas again, as I highly doubt i'll be posting on Christmas Day.



getting excited for next week

If you read my blog often sorry I have not posted in a few days.
Its not that I've been busy. As you might know my weekends are always the same.

This weekend we went back into Portsmouth, even though we said we wouldn't so close to Christmas, but we had to get some secret santa presents.
It was horrible, busy as you would expect, but the amount if rude people was shocking. So many people just stopped right in front of the pram.
One lady hit my son with her coat trying to get past us in a shop, didn't even say sorry, luckily he was ok and didn't seem fazed by it.
I hate going into town centres so close to Christmas, it's like everything thinks, right I can be as rude as I want and on one can say a thing, all manners seem to go out the window this time of year when it comes to shopping.
That possibly makes me sound older then I am. I am 25 honest, but I was brought up with manners and I think other people should use them as well, no matter where you are. It's not something that should be just used in front of your elders, they should be used every day, in all situations.

Yesterday not much actually happened.
I had the worst night sleep last night. I just could not get comfortable. I'm just shy of 30 weeks, I don't exactly have a big bump so though this would happen a bit later on.
I ended up sleeping on the sofa as hubby had work and I didn't want to keep waking him.
I think it was about quarter to 6 this morning that I finally got to sleep. little one woke up at quarter to 8, so changed him and gave him a bottle put him back in his cot so I could get a bit more sleep.
I am hoping tonight I can sleep. I am quite tired so hoping it won't take too long to fall asleep.

On to the post title.
As it says I'm getting so excited for next week, as next week is Christmas. I love Christmas, I become such a big kid, and this year is my little one's first Christmas, so I am even more excited for that.
I know he won't remember it or even know whats going on, but still it's an exciting time of year.

74% chance of a sucessful VBAC

Well yesterday I saw my consultant, still waiting to hear from my VBAC consultant though.
Any way because I hadn't heard from them yet, she briefly went through the pros and cons of both VBAC and C-section. I told her I would prefer the C-section. She said that's fine if after seeing the VBAC consultant and nearer the end of my pregnancy I still want another section then they'll sort that out for me. She said that if I did go VBAC I'd have a 74% chance of a successful VBAC. If I was going to go for that then I wanted my chances to be higher then that.
I know 74% is still pretty good, but I was hoping for at least 85% 90%.

Anyway my blood pressure was once again low. I was then asked about my eating habits and have been told to try and eat 5 to 6 small meals a day and of course drink more. She said that she wouldn't be surprised if I got dizzy spells. To which I said I do. My bump is still measuring a week behind.

Today my health visitor came over to drop some books off for my little one. She also mentioned that she had spoken to my doctor and that he said to try and 5 to 6 small meals a day, and that if I still have a problem with gaining weight or can't manage the 5 to 6 small meals then they are going to refer me to a dietarian.

I don't want to see a dietarian, I'm worried that it would make me worse. I know that it shouldn't but I know it would mean having to keep a food dairy, and doing that might make me think am I eating to much? am I not eating enough?

I still haven't gained any more weight, so I am still at 9lbs weight gain. I am going to see how it is when I see my midwife on 16th January and then speak to her about it then.

Mostly happy girly here

I know I don't post every day, but they way I see if it, if I did it would always be the same thing and my posts would be stupidly short. At least with leaving a day or two then I can have more to talk about. Well that's the theory any way.

Well as usually not much has happened since my last post.

yesterday though I got a message on a baby forum I am on. It was a lovely message. I always thought that no one really reads my blog, just clicks on the link quick look and that's it, but it was lovely to it get a message saying that they had a look a my blog because she wanted children close in age.

I'm just hoping I have some useful information in my blog. Even if I do sometimes go on and on, or repeat myself quite a bit.

Well that's the happy girly part of me.
Now on today

I had the health visitor today. Turned up 15 minutes late and was here a good hour and a half.
I managed to talk about some things I've never really spoken to anyone other then hubby about. I told them that my hubby thought I had a little bit of depression after our son was born, she asked if I saw anyone about it. Well of course I hadn't this was the first time I had spoken to anyone about it.
She then asked about my eating habits, I told her I don't eat a lot but I had always been like that. I told her I could quite easily go till 3 4 in the afternoon without eating, which then brought up any issues I had when I was younger. It was then I had to tell her about when I was 13 and how I had become anorexic. I never saw anyone about it, so had it get over it myself. Although physical I had gotten over it mentally I still haven't. It was at that point she asked about my weight gain. Something that was not brought up in my last pregnancy despite midwives always commenting on how small I am.
She asked about my pre-pregnancy weight and how much I am now. She didn't seem very pleased that my total weight gain so far is 9lbs. She then went on to say that she is going to talk to my midwife about it. So now I have no idea whats going to happen at my midwife appointments. Will they weigh me to make sure I am gaining weight? Will I have to have more appointments to make sure I won't end up anorexic again?
Personally if I didn't after my son was born I don't think I will this time. Of course I will lose the weight I gained and do my exercises to get back my toned body, well semi toned anyway. I'm slightly worried hubby won't like it though. He prefers a women with curves, something he can hold on to. He tells me he loves my loves handles but when you look at yourself and see the flab you think differently. It's like he is making me chose between him and a body I am happy with.

Lack of weight gain

Lets start with the weekend.
Saturday me and hubby managed to get a lay in, out little boy slept in a bit longer then usual which was great. We did the last of our Christmas shopping, so apart from secret santa we're all done.
secret santa is something we started doing this year. I'm hoping we'll do it every year. I got my brother-in-law (sister-in-law's hubby) he's pretty hard to buy for, this year it's joke themed. He doesn't take jokes very well. He's quite a stressed person so thought about getting him booby stress balls. Then thought well he hates people touching him so I could get him something that say I need a hug on it, quite a few ideas have gone through my head.

Sunday I went to see my dad and step-mum as it had been a few weeks since I last seen them. Spent about an hour there, talking about general chit chat and what time we'll be over Christmas day. We had sunday dinner over hubby's parents. Little one had his first roast not mashed up, he did pretty well with it.

Today
Well I got the fright of my life this morning, half asleep and all I hear is a thud thud and then a cry. Go running  into my little boys room and he had fallen out of his cot. I have no idea what the hell he was trying to get, but it must have been something as usually he's pretty good in his cot and won't lean over in it.
He was sick about 10 minutes after which scared me, I didn't really want to let him nap, but thought I'm pretty sure I read somewhere it was ok for them to sleep as long as you can wake them up. I thought ok i'll let him have his nap and then if he hasn't woken after 2 hours then i'll try waking him. Luckily he woke up just before the 2 hour mark.
He seems normal in himself which is great. But now he's teething. I think his top teeth are coming through, or one of his back ones.

I phoned my health visitor today to see if I could change my appointment as its for me any where. It was meant to be on the 19th but hubby can't get the time off work so I tried changing it to the Monday after. but they not open then. So now they are coming to me Wednesday instead. I explained that I find it hard to leave the house on my own, and they were more then happy to send someone to me.

Ok so now to today's topic.
Lack of weight gain.
Weight gain is a worry for quite a few pregnant ladies. With my last pregnancy I struggled to gain the weight, gained 15lbs in total 10lbs under the lowest recommend weight gain, and my son turned out to be a tiny baby, an IUGR baby.
Now I am a little over 28 weeks and have gained 9lbs. It makes me worry that this baby will also end up being an IUGR baby. I read that lack of weight gain can cause it. The problem is I am eating. I've never been a big eater. I'm not eating less so surly I should be putting the weight on.
I know it means less to lose when I've had the baby, and your probably thinking what you moaning about you jamming bitch I've gained like 20lbs. But having read that lack of weight gain can cause IUGR has mad me think it's my fault that my son was so small, and if this baby has it as well its going to make me feel worse about. I think though I will ask if it's my fault this time. All I was told last time was it's because I am small (5ft) which I can't help. So if the reason was because I am small, would that mean my baby will have IUGR like my first did?  

Getting an earlier growth scan

Today I had my 28 week midwife appointment. I went in with one question that was a must, thinking that nothing could be done about it, and I'd have to wait.
Last week my consultant told me i'll have a growth scan at 34 weeks. Now to me this seemed quite late, as it was 34 weeks when it was picked up that something was wrong with my son. I explained that if something was wrong, i.e this baby was to have IUGR as well, I didn't want the same mad rush I had at the end of my last.
When I explained why I wanted an earlier growth scan she was straight on the phone to arrange an earlier one for me. So now instead of waiting till I am 34 weeks, I only have to wait till I am 32 weeks. I know 2 weeks might not make much of a difference but I know that if this baby's growth slows it will be picked up earlier.

I think I said a few posts back about last week my bump measuring a week ahead. Well today it's measuring a week behind, which would mean that my bump has shrunk. Looking back at some of my bump photos for this pregnancy the last two weeks don't seem to have any difference to them, if there is it is a very small difference.

Pregnancy weight

I was looking through the threads on baby and bump, I came across a thread about weight gain week by week. On there someone had posted a link to a site that tells you how much weight you should have gained by such and such week.
Well I thought ok I know I'm under what I should be but didn't think I was that under. I am almost 28 weeks and have gained 9lbs, last time I weighed myself a few days ago. Now on this site it said I should have gained about 16lbs by now. That's more then what I gained with my son my entire pregnancy with him.

Now I know every pregnancy is different, and everyone will gain the weight differently, but do you believe in the pregnancy weight gain charts?
The ones that tell you should gain this by this.
I believe in some sense they are a good guideline, but I also think it just gives us more to worry about. If your over the max gain weight you worry you've gained to much, being under the minimum makes you worry that you've not gained enough.

I watched a baby programme today and on there on of the nurses were saying not gaining enough weight can cause the baby to have IUGR.
Now my son was born with IUGR, and I only gained 15lbs with him. Do that make it my fault he had IUGR? I know my height can be a factor, being 5ft short means baby would not have a lot of room to grow, so in that sense, it's just another factor to being my fault for the reason that my son was born with IUGR.
So if I was to look at those factors that it would make it my fault.
Other things that can cause IUGR are smoking and drinking, but I don't do either, so I know it was not because of that.
I am around smokers pretty much all the time, but I am sure that wouldn't be a factor.

With pregnancy I am finding that weight seems to be one of the biggest worry for us. whether it's because we are worried about not gaining enough or we're gaining to much.
I think the big list of foods that we can and can't eat doesn't really help.  

Same old same old

Well as the title suggests really, same old thing happening.
Me hubby and little one went into Portsmouth on Saturday little one was in his new car seat and loved it. Bless him he tried so hard to not fall asleep.
We did a little of Christmas shopping. Hubby let me pick some of my Christmas presents.
As much as I love Christmas, I hate going into shopping centres around this time of year. It's so busy, excuse my language for a moment please, but no body gives a shit if you have a pram or not, they'll quite happily stop right in front of you or walk in front of you and except you to be the one to say sorry.

Saturday night I spent 2 hours sorting out scrapbooks, one for my little boy and one for the new baby.
I got my first embarrassing photo of our son that night as well, now that he can sit up really well and unaided he sits up in the bath. He loves bath time now as he get to splash about in the water.

Sunday we went into Havant. Hubby had seen a photography company use our photos from our photo shoot and I just had to see it. It was so strange my little family being used to advertise their company. They told us that had had quite a few complements from the photo. We've been invited back in march. So we're going to save up to get another one done, as little one will be one and the new baby will be here. The baby will only be a few weeks old but its going to make such a great family photo.

Sunday after we went to hubby's parents for sunday dinner. The usually sunday thing. Our little one actually fed himself, which dose not happen often, so it was lovely to see.